Married

I am now part of the married community, thanks to the efforts of the now named vet assistant, Amanda. I bought the ring back in the middle of may, proposed on memorial day, and was married on 7-17-11. Amanda made a huge effort to plan nearly everything in that six week span, and it turned out really great. We found a convenient venue, a pastor for a civil ceremony, decorations and food in all that time. Amanda looked great in her dress, and she even said "I do" when the big moment came, even though she had some tears during the ceremony. I sure did get nervous when she was teared up, I couldn't tell what was going on with the glare from the sun.

We settled on a civil ceremony after talking to Father Mike one friday morning. He assured us that being civilly married was fine, as was all other aspects of a civil marriage, in the eyes of the catholic church. Once we get the paperwork done for anulling Amandas previous marriage, we can go ahead and have a religous ceremony and be married in the eyes of the church and God. Now that we have surpassed the crunch of that shortened schedule we will be able to get that done.

We agreed on such a short engagement time for a couple of reasons. The main reason being that being engaged for a long amount of time seems kind of silly to me at least. I had already decided that marriage was what I wanted, and I didn't see the reasoning behind waiting several months.

Amanda is really looking forward to having childeren also. I think her greatest ambition in life is to be a great mother. While I do look forward to having kids, I would like to be more financially secure. I think a child would be a great blessing, and I am fairly confident that some families have children with less that what we have. Farming keeps the bills paid for me and one other person, but getting up to three and four people is going to be very tight. With that being said, I have been much more aggressive in job hunting. I applied for a Kentucky teaching license, looked at jobs elsewhere, and am keeping on the ball with other states also. A full time teaching job most likely means a move at this point. I am not opposed to moving, but I haven't decided what that would mean for farming ambitions. If I moved could I keep my stake in what we do? Would my two brothers take over and become more involved? How permenant would a job be? Would I move back if a more desirable teaching position became available after a couple of years? Are we going to expand our acreage or keep the status quo? Does my dad still think doing things the hard way is the way to maintain a healthy physique?  Would I be willing to come back if some ideas aren't implemented? The post office job is great, but I spent five grand on a car and have only made about 25 hundred thus far. They also have to make cuts and aren't hiring full time help for the past several years.

I also want to get some thoughts out about some conditions Amanda implemented. The first condition I am fine with, but the alcohol thing is getting to me. I thought I did a reasonable job of moderation, but Amanda was discontent with my moderation so I am now a sober personality. The more I think about it, I realize that I shouldn't be to upset. I have a happy wife who goes to church with me. I don't spend any money on booze. I can take up other money making interests when/if I get away from farming, such as officiating whatever else I might think of. I have a reason to be like I was pre-21, staying home and not being social. The best reason that I had to tolerate some social events was that I could drink and enjoy myself, but that is gone now, so I can be a hermit with a wife. 

I am also now an uncle. My pharmacist sister and her husband had a baby girl on 7/14, named Alyssa. When Amanda and me first started planning the wedding, the due date was the 3rd, and as time went along the baby never came. Due to the proximity of the dates, they weren't able to make the wedding, but the care of a newborn is more important than attending an event.

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