really tough

This week I talked personally with my pastor for what might have been the first time ever. I was having conflicting thoughts about a moral issue that I needed some guidance on. I couldn't decide what the catholic moral viewpoint was about seeing someone who is still technically married. My preacher thought  that as long as I wasn't committing adultery, I was in the clear. This doesn't mean that I am going to go ahead and push the envelope with the situation, but I now have a more clear boundary about what to not do. On one hand, I meet this person and knew they considered themselves separated. I meet her via the internet. I didn't track down or search out separated people. I didn't hear local news that she was recently available. She put herself out there for the online dating community. Ideally I would have already asked to be more serious about seeing each other. As it is though, I don't feel right actively dating a still married person, no matter how separated. Once a person is legally divorced, I feel that they could become more fair game, but until then I have to be content with being a friend and keeping some distance. I wasn't really thinking or anticipating any sexual acts anyways. I kind of jumped into that quickly with the last relationship and would like to see how relationships are when jumping into bed isn't an easy fix for activity. 

I also heard some terrible news yesterday. One of the girls that I went to high school with wrecked her car pretty bad and spent several days this week in an ICU unit at the hospital. She is going to make it through and be fine from what I have been told, but is going to have a trying couple of months ahead. She has to wear some back and neck support 24 hours a day for the next three months. That would be really tough for anyone to do. I am not sure if she is going to be able to work or how much mobility she will have in the coming weeks. She was really just getting her life together real well. She got the job she went to college for and things were going well. I did find an interesting parallel with her and her sister, who I dated for a year. Connie was in a car accident when she was 22 and damaged her knee so badly that she couldn't hardly leave the house to work for a year. Jessica is 26 and might be staring down a very similar path. It all just goes to remind you how dangerous driving can be. I am not nearly as safe as I think I am. 

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